Lack Of Control

Lack Of Control

This week, we're thinking about how to stay grounded when there's a lack of control.

It's no secret ā€” we don't always have control over many things in life (we're looking at you global pandemic, job loss, friendship/relationship changes, etc.) During these times, it's easy to feel like you're spiraling, breaking down, and panicking šŸ¤Æ .

But we'll let you in on a secret: if you can stay grounded when sh*t's hitting the fan, you can control almost any situation.

We're not suggesting that this is simple, but it is possible.

Here are some of our favorite ways to ground ourselves, when control is nowhere to be found šŸ‘€

šŸŒæ Spend time outside. Ground yourself with, well, the actual ground. In this most basic form of grounding, taking in a breath of fresh air and feeling the solid earth beneath you can help you focus on what's right in front of you. No shoes strongly encouraged.

šŸ’† Give yourself a full-body scan. You can rarely control everything around you, so instead, try controlling yourself. Focus all of your attention on your toes; notice how they're resting, decide if they feel comfortable in that place, and change positions if they don't. Next, move on to your feet and ankles, going through the same checklist. Bring your awareness up slowly to the rest of your body, until you reach the top of your head. This is a great exercise for those who tend to experience physical symptoms when stressed.

šŸ“† Create a schedule or a list. When the world feels like it's falling apart, you can rest assured knowing that you have a plan for the rest of your day, week, or even month. This gives you power over the near term, and potentially, calm in the chaos.

Sometimes, lack of control arises from within, like not having control over your emotions. In this case, the first step would be to remember that feelings change.

The average person has around 6,000 thoughts per day šŸ¤Æ . Some are good, some are bad, and some are completely ridiculous. A thought such as "I'm not ____ enough" is an exaggerated feeling that our brain develops to protect us by enticing fear into our conscience. If you take a moment to fact check, you'll often find the evidence says otherwise, and this thought can be passed along.šŸ’Ø

So next time you feel like you might be losing it, take a sec, run through this checklist and trust that it'll all be okay. āœØ



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